A little disclaimer beforehand. Of course, you are not a bad person if you haven’t accomplished these things before you are turning 30 years. This is just my personal opinion. Hopefully, it can give you a little guideline in how you could navigate your life in order to become more successful.
Don’t wait for opportunity, create it!
Have your finances IN ORDER (at least most of them)
I wasn’t the best with money, because nobody taught me how to take care of my personal finances. In my young teenage years, I started spending money for all kind of superficial and irrelevant stuff: like the newest iPhone, shoes I have never worn til this day, expensive make up I saw on big American YouTubers and many things more. What relieved me a little bit, was the fact, that even people beyond the age of 30, were still struggling with finances, therefore- I thought- I didn’t matter how I was in my early twenties. I tried to get rid of this excuse, because I wanted to be debt free, and buy my first apartment in the next 15 years. I knew, that I had to focus on myself and just continue to compare myself with myself.
Of course, It doesn’t mean that you have all your stuff together.Nobody always got their stuff together. We are in a learning process- It just mean that you should have at least a broad idea of your own financial goals in the future, maybe have saved up at least two months of your current salary and know about the basics of investment, so you can generate passive income.
You can start by writing down all your income streams and all your expenses in one month and year. Ask yourself:
- How was/is the relationship with money in my family?
- How much money do I have left at the end of the month?
- How much am I able to save from it?
- What basics do I know about money management?
- What kind of luxuries can I sacrifice in order to have more money left at the end of the month?
There are more things you could and should ask yourself and record on an excel sheet or notebook. I will go in details in other blog posts in the future if you would like that. (Thumbs up, if you do)🙂
Associate yourself with the RIGHT people
When we are in school, we become friends with almost everybody and it is a great feeling to know so many people. You don’t think so much how other people may view your relationship with other mates. But when you are in your twenties, you should become much more aware with what kind of people you are associating with, because it is a direct reflection of yourself and other people can judge you from it. I have a perfect example for it:
I had a friend that I really liked and we did spent so much good and exciting time together. We loved talking about men and went to a lot of clubs together. For some reason, we lost contact and then we met again after a few years. Everything changed so much- or I should say. I changed extremely.
She was still a social butterfly that loved to party, smoked, drinked and used a lot of vulgar language. I don’t say that to shame her. These were things I found highly entertaining back in the days, but know I realized that going to the club is too stressful and expensive for me. Everything I found funny in the past- annoyed me extremely when I met her again. I hated that my clothes smelled like I was working in a tabacco company and everytime I heared a cuss word, I felt some kind of nausea in my stomach area. I knew immediately- that is not the kind of person I wanted to associate with in the future. When she asked me a couple weeks later to hang out again, I told her in the most friendly and comforting way, that this was just not me anymore. I just felt too uncomfortable. She was very understanding and we still met again, but just drank something during daytime in a nice coffee shop.
The moral of the story is: Surround yourself with people who can elevate you, and vice versa. Where you feel comfortable and see yourself in. Never apologize for knowing what you like and dislike.
Know your boundaries in LOVE
I talked a lot in previous posts about boundaries and how to protect them. When you are in your twenties, this tip is especially important because it is about boundaries in love and if you don’t have them, it can lead to a future full of regrets and burdens.
I often shake my head, when I think about what kind of behavior I tolerated from men. Thank GOD, there is the internet and there are books and movies which are giving good tips in how to change for better results in interpersonal relationships. I knew that I had to raise my standards, by value myself worth. I knew that I had to heal from past traumas. I knew that these were some of the key components to a healthy and loving relationship. I often see in celebrities what they are dealing with. And it is interesting, because we as the outside world see them with their millions, billions and successes- but they are dealing with the same kind of relationship problems as us. The main difference is that they have access to other resources. But by seeing all the examples of messy divorces and relationship drama, having a lot of money, doesn’t mean that you have a lot of self-esteem, integrity and standards for yourself. How would you explain why so many women or men go back to their partners, after cheating scandals or having babies with other women? Someone can argue that money is a big factor, but I don’t believe that this is the number one reason. Never forget that you are beautiful from the inside and outside!❤️ You deserve to be loved, respected and honored like the queen/king you are! If someone is treating you bad👉🏾 leave. Watch my YouTube Video for a good portion of new ideas for a much more happier life.
Have good SKIN CARE routines
I really wish I stared this a couple years earlier, but hey- it is never to late to change your daily habits.🤷🏾♀️ As you may know- your skin is your biggest organ. It protects you from the environment. It is protecting your organs and makes sure that your body temperature is all in check. So tell me, why aren’t we using sunscreen, body scrubs, massages e.g more regulary?!
To be honest, I was a little bit mischievous when my caucasian friends started to panic when they forgot their sunscreens or burned themselves from the sun, despite applying a good amount of sunscreen all over their body. I always layed in my bikini with a smirk on my face- knowing that after this sun bath I won’t feel anything. No burn, no pealing of my skin, no itchiness. And all because of my dark skin. Well, it may be like that, but I learned from dermatologists that applying sunscreen is an essential protection for your skin against the aggressive UV rays and it prevents wrinkles on your skin. After reading and hearing about it, I took greater care of my skin and invested in a steamer, booked my first facial treatment and pampered myself with a back massage. Taking care of your biggest organ, should become a daily routine. It doesn’t have to be a fancy facial treatment. You can start with a 3 step morning and night routine, where you include serums, washing lotions and sunscreen. It is never too late to start! Comment below, if you would like know what I am doing to my skin😊
Happy december and have a blessed day💕