Why are you still single?

I really hate this question.🙄🤢 Probably everybody have heared it somewhere from someone. Why are you still single?

Where does this pressure from  society come from? I wondered what people wanted to hear from me when they asked me that.

In todays Article, I want to talk about the pressure of beeing in a relationship and what we can learn from it.


I think it’s good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone.

   -Amy Sedaris

Why people ask 

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Thanks to countless Disney and Hollywood Movies,we believe that the ultimate fulfillment of happiness comes with beeing in a relationship. It is true that humans need each other to survive. In stone age, it could mean the when a person left the herd, because predators had easy access to the person.

Thankfully, we live in a society with different kind of danger. We won´t die if we are single for years.

the first step to break out of the false picture of what a perfect life should be like, is to accept that beeing single is nothing bad.


Maybe I choosed so?

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I think many people arent aware that beeing single can be a choice. After a relationship I had, I choosed to be single for four years. I wanted to, because I was curious and wanted some experience and my freedom back. The kind of drama that I saw from friends, tv and my own past, was really discouraging. There were men that I dated and where I thought „maybe he is a good fit“ But at the end of the day, I decided to enjoy my Independence. 💪🏾

Be comfortable with yourself

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My most important discovery about beeing single is that it gives you time to work on yourself. In this four years where I was alone, I examined what I prefer, what I need to work on, what I dont like in men.  I improved my money management and worked on my body. Personal growth is the key to success! I started my travel journey and developed new friendships. My life was good. 🏋🏾‍♀️📚

Of course there were days, where I wished to have a shoulder to lean on, but at the end of the day I was always happy and satisfied with myself first. A partner should not fill you out. He/She should be a nice addition to your already awesome life!☝🏾

If I had not focused on myself and had build something for me, I probably would end in a toxic relationship. I am happy that I took the time.






God has the perfect partner for the right time for you. Just be patient and continue hustling.









2 Gedanken zu „Why are you still single?

  1. Yes, beeing in a relationship can be so wonderful and satisfying but society put too much pressure on it. It is okay to be single and happy. Everything will come to the right time.


  2. Hi Jenny,

    I don’t like to be alone. Because if you’ve have a problem the problem is divided through two and when you are happy you’re happy + 1
    But it’s good the you heard on YOUR feelings.

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